The learning of the pacifism is a long and difficult task. Every day we potentially expose ourselves to disagreements and conflicts with our fellow men every time we have contact, every time we interact or collaborate with other beings.
It would be easier to extract us from this society and consequently not to expose us to differences which can sometimes strike us and provoke in us fatal feelings for ourselves and others.
Now, isolate ourselves (spiritually, socially or by taking detachment) and therefore do not feel the consequences of these oppositions can give us the illusion that we finally know what pacifism is because we are no longer in conflict with anyone ... So it is easy to speak about peace and compassion, and believe that we feel them strongly inside if we are not exposed to these social stimuli. Moreover, by isolating ourselves, can we really claim to know what true compassion and pacifism is if we have never experimented or if we stop experiencing these relations which finally return us to our own inner storms. If we have an umbrella over our head, do we for all that prevent the rain from falling? Did we eliminate for all that unpleasant sensation of the cold and the wet clothes on our skin? I don’t think so, we are not wet and that is all.
Not to live this experiment we refrain to understand what we feel, to understand possibly why it seems to us unpleasant and thus we forbid us to transcend it.
It is the same of the pacifism, we have to experiment the interpersonal conflict to understand it and transcend it. The isolation or the indifference prevents us from understanding all the internal process which brings us to feel more or less hard a situation, to grasp our internal and physical demonstrations, to understand our own entry to the conflicting process and to become aware of the influence of the real world on our own lives.
Rather than to flee, it is necessary to embrace these painful situations and to consider them as so many opportunities to go even farther to our learning of us and to go farther to our inner rise.
As committed pacifist we owe in the real world, to make every effort to calm and try to settle all the conflicts to which we are exposed, "so insignificant" they can appear with regard to the scale of the conflicts which strike the humanity, because it would be go away from our way to ignore them.
Our capacity to continue in everyday life, to keep our attention on our daily or unexpected relations, this tough effort to pacify our lives will allow us in fact and eventually to understand, to appease and to eliminate the human conflicts in their global nature.
This perseverance in the everyday life is the reflection of our spiritual commitment, of our benevolence towards others and towards our deep will to allow all the people, all the human beings to reach well-being and happiness wherever they are.
The aim, obviously, is not to stop feeling emotions, but to understand why we feel them, to identify all the forms of expression associated with these feelings, the potentially excessive consequent reactions, their effects on ourselves, on our well-being and that of others. So, we shall understand the process of creation of all these emotions, and all their forms, we shall find then the means to anticipate them, this internal knowledge will free us to choose the most adapted reactions in accordance with our spiritual and pacifist commitments.
It is useless to flog ourselves, to feel guilty in front of our painful reactions, those which sometimes may escape us, this would plunge us into grief, sorrow and paralysis. It is essential to have compassion for ourselves, to accept that we are perfectly imperfect and sometimes in contradiction with our deepest aspirations and what we thought to be capable of being, just systematically make sure to always have (even a posteriori) the presence of mind and objectivity to learn from our "faux pas", to fix our mistakes and ensure not to reproduce them.
We learned a lot, we learn every day and we never stop learning of ourselves and others on ourselves and on the others.
Let us humble but confident. Accept each day to be better than yesterday and that we approach at each time toward what our heart and our inside call tend: Peace on earth, in this world, in this life.
Always strive to do what looks like us and what corresponds to our highest values.